Friday, May 14, 2010

I'll Never Be....

pretty enough
funny enough
thin enough
liked enough
skinny enough
nice enough
happy enough
a better runner
the best employee
the best sibling
the best partner

I'll never be good enough.


This bothers you I bet? Yep, it bothers me too.

For the past few weeks I have been focusing on trying to be more positive and learning what God's true love is and how He thinks of me, of us, as His children.

Much like milllions of other women (and men too) out there, we all try to work out harder, to be skinnier, to be healthier, to be more attractive, to eat the right things, to say the right things, and to do the right things. Society has placed such a strong focus on who we aren't and who we should be rather than who we are and who God has made us to be.

I often feel that women have such an insecurity about their outward appearance, and that there is a lot of pressure to be beautiful, to be rail thin, to make sure they look good for their partners 100% of the time. I hear stories from people who's partner's want them to be skinnier or know what I want to say to those people who think that?? I don't think I need to tell you what I want to say to those people, but serisously, they need to get over themselves. What happened to loving that person with all your heart no matter what they look like? Is that completely just out of the question? I think not.

What happened to just true beauty? What happened to confidence? I hear my friends saying "I'm fat" or "I'm ugly" and it breaks my heart to hear that because I look at them and often admire them for being true, for being beautiful, and for being nice and funny and outgoing. All characteristics that God made for them. I would be lying if I said I didn't struggle with this a bit as well because I do, which is why I am trying to learn to be positive and to be comfortable in my own skin.

My wish to everyone is that we would stop trying so hard and to You are beautiful, you are loved, you are who God made you to be.

I took some verses that I believe don't need any explaining, but serve as a reminder for all of us who struggle with this. It is plain and simple, Jesus loves us, so why don't we love ourselves?

Your adornment must not be merely external--braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 1 Peter 3:3-4 NIV

But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith. 1 Tim. 1:5 NIV


  1. I really enjoyed reading this post today. It was a reminder that I needed. I've always been on a diet or at least trying to watch what I eat, but I'm in great shape and I'm an avid runner. Like a lot of women, which you described here, I'm always pushing further to make my outter appearance improve, when my inner being needs work and attention too. Thanks for the encouraging words Lindsey!! Love your blog <3

  2. That verse from I Peter is EXCELLENT! I found myself last night having my first "oh my gosh am I ever gonna get my body back" moment. I thought I saw the beginnings of my first stretch mark . . which turned out to NOT be the case. I stopped myself and prayed and felt 1000 times better. I need to frame this verse. It is perfect.

  3. I loved this..just read it again!!!!!!